Am I Being Abused?

The following questions are designed to help you reflect on your relationship and recognize any potential abusive behavior. Take your time as you read through them, and remember that these questions are meant to guide you toward awareness and support. Abuse is never your fault, and seeking assistance can help you stay safe.

General Behavior and Control

  1. Do you feel scared or anxious around your partner, especially about how they might react to something you say or do?

  2. Does your partner try to control where you go, who you see, or what you do?

  3. Do you feel like your opinions, feelings, or choices are often dismissed or belittled by your partner?

Emotional and Verbal Abuse

  1. Does your partner insult, humiliate, or criticize you in private or in front of others?

  2. Do they blame you for their anger or behavior, saying you "made them act that way"?

  3. Do you feel like your partner often manipulates you into doing things you’re uncomfortable with?

  4. Has your partner made you feel worthless, guilty, or undeserving of love?

Physical Abuse

  1. Has your partner ever hurt or threatened to hurt you physically (e.g., hitting, pushing, choking)?

  2. Do you feel unsafe when your partner is angry?

  3. Has your partner destroyed your belongings or used physical intimidation to frighten you?

Financial Abuse

  1. Does your partner control how money is spent or prevent you from accessing essential financial resources?

  2. Are you denied information about your joint finances or kept from having your own bank account or income?

  3. Has your partner pressured you into quitting a job or prevented you from working?

Psychological Abuse

  1. Does your partner make you question your memory or perception of events (gaslighting)?

  2. Do they threaten to harm themselves, your family, or your pets to prevent you from leaving or speaking up?

  3. Do you feel like your partner isolates you from friends or family members?

Sexual Abuse

  1. Has your partner pressured or forced you into sexual activity that made you feel uncomfortable, scared, or ashamed?

  2. Do they disregard your boundaries, or make you feel obligated to engage in sexual activities?

Neglect and Abandonment

  1. Does your partner withhold affection, communication, or support as a way to punish or control you?

  2. Have they left you or your dependents (e.g., children, pets) in dangerous or neglectful situations?